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Co-Addiction Free

with Addie Lee

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Posted on April 27, 2014 at 7:32 PM
Dear Academy Award Watchers,
Yes, Nebraska, is one of the nominated films for 2013 and portrays Bruce Dern/Woody Grant as an elderly, cantankerous father who thinks he's struck it rich when he receives a junk "Sweepstakes" letter announcing he can collect his million dollars by bringing his winning number to Lincoln. Woody, an alcoholic, displays the alcoholic behaviors which are red flags for that disease. Actress, June Squibb, plays the part of his aggrieved wife, Kate Grant and gives an A-1 performance as the co-dependent, bitchy wife. Observers may come to hate her intensely as the movie edges toward its finale. In reality, co-dependents aren't usually liked that much because of their bitchiness, impatience with the alcoholic and controlling behaviors. Friends and/or family view the alcoholic as the "misunderstood" one and the addict plays into the sympathy as acting like the victim with the self-pity expressed. Woody certainly portrayed this part with much skill. He manipulates his compassionate son, David, played by Will Forte, to drive him to Lincoln to collect his money much to Kate's dismay. On the way to Lincoln, the two stop at Rapid City, South Dakota where Woody goes on a drinking binge, falls in the motel room and cuts his head open, requiring a trip to the local hospital. Discovering that Woody has lost his dentures, father and son retrace Woody's steps and find them beside the railroad tracks in the town. David calls his family to tell them of the recent happenings and that he and his dad will be driving through Hawthorne, Woody's hometown, on the way to Lincoln. Kate decided to hop on the bus and join them. Hearing this news, Woody objects but David drives on to Hawthorne where his uncle and aunt and family live. Arriving there we see the family members subsisting on the verge of poverty because of the recession. The only entertainment in that town sadly seems to be drinking and watching TV of which almost everyone partakes, leading to arguing,threatening and dysfunctional behaviors.  At the local bar, Woody goads his son into drinking with him and in the process admits to his alcoholism and problems with the family because of it including his confiding that he really didn't love Kate nor want any children. The pain of this confession is seen on David's face as he listens to the admission. Viewers are able to see the interaction between the alcoholic and co or family member. Alcoholics do not realize the pain they inflict on others, especially when they are drinking but also when they are in the "dry-drunk" after they quit. When they admit there is a problem, stop drinking, accept the need for help and commit to "doing whatever it takes to recover", empathy returns. A co's inability to empathize or sympathize with the alcoholic causes much pain to the family also. When Kate nags at Woody and "puts him down" verbally, David is hurt and soaks up her displeasure within his own psyche unbeknownst to her. This is one of the most important reasons for co's to seek and get help for their co-addiction. Their behaviors have not been acceptable in the conundrum of alcoholism either and replacing them with healthy actions as well as becoming knowledgeable of the fact that alcoholism is a "family disease" leads to their appropriate behaviors, understanding and recovery. There are some redeeming qualities that arise for both Woody and David at the end of the movie but it is unknown how Kate will fare. If you observe this movie with the background knowledge of the disease of alcoholism, you will appreciate even more when those afflicted seek help, participate in their recovery and change their lives to be productive, healthy and happy.
Good Karma, Everybody!

Categories: Education-co-addiction, addiction and recovery