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with Addie Lee

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My Recipe for Helping Myself as a Co-Dependent

Posted on April 6, 2013 at 1:48 PM Comments comments (4)
               As a co-dependent, I began looking for ways to help myself. Following is a list of what I did:

Moving into "action" was very healing. It was a way to empower myself, to give me hope that I could live a new way.I trust that this guideline will empower you and let you know that there is something you can do for yourself which will ultimately lead to changes around you. You won't feel so "stuck". You will like yourself for moving ahead to a solution to your situation.


Posted on February 28, 2013 at 7:15 PM Comments comments (1)
All women will be standing up and cheering today because  the Congress of the United States finally passed the reauthorization of the Violence Against Women Act! There should have been no foot dragging by the male majority held legislators. There should never have been any questions regarding the importance of upholding this law. One wonders just what is going on in the minds of many of the law makers of the United States. This game playing seems to be a disease held by mostly the conservative men of Congress. It is like alcoholism. The power of a drink or two or three makes the drinker feel strong and inpenetrable and self-righteous just like these conservative Republicans who engage in the "one-upsmanship" mentality and game playing holding the country hostage to get their way. How is our democracy to survive this? Obstructionism is paralyzing our country. It is becoming a victim of selfish, self-centered authocrats who hide behind claims that the other side is responsible for the mess we find ourselves in..playing the blame game.  
Some serious intervention is needed at this time. Who is going to step up and lead us out of this miasma? Where is the grown-up in the room?
Time will tell. Let's hope the problem is solved soon before we all lose confidence in our leaders.

See you in Colorado Springs, CO - January 27-30, 2013.

Posted on January 16, 2013 at 6:12 PM Comments comments (1)
The 39th Advanced International Winter Symposium on Addictive Disorders, Behavioral Health and Mental Health takes place in Colorado Springs, CO at the Crowne Plaza Hotel January 27-30, 2013. It is presented by: Psychotherapy Associates, P.C. and Educational Supporters. The Symposium Faculty includes Bob Ferguson, BS; Claudia Black, PhD; Lisa Marzilli, PharmD.CDE; Mel Pohl, MD. FASAM; and Beverly Berg. MFT.PhD. to name a few. There will be many relevant exhibitions on display at the Symposium.  Co-Addiction Free with Addie Lee has reserved a booth in the registration area and will be exhibiting the book "It's Okay To Be Dumbfounded, Just Don't Stay That Way!" From Co-Addiction, Addiction to Recovery-Doing whatever it takes to live a healthy life free from addiction for attendees to view and possibly purchase. It will be a great time for attendees to acquaint themselves with the new information available for co-dependents, the recovered and non-recovered addicts and the mental health or social workers who are counseling this population. If you are attending the conference, I invite you to stop by my booth to see what I have to offer.
Good Karma!


Posted on December 31, 2012 at 5:25 PM Comments comments (0)
Yes, we are just hours away from 2013! I want to wish all of my readers the best in the coming year and thank you for your welcome comments in 2012. This time of year is not a happy time for co-dependents and their families. I wish you the courage and strength to move forward seeking help for yourselves. Below is a list of resources that will provide help for you:

1. Find your local Al-Anon support group. Look in the yellow pages of your telephone directory or call 1-888-425-
    2666, the national Al-Anon line
2. Call the Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc.1-888-425-2666; email [email protected]
3. Attend a meeting ASAP. Take a friend or family member with you for support.
4. Check out the national Al-Anon website at: for assistance.  
5. Telephone your local Alcoholics Anonymous office and request support information.
6. Visit your local library and scan the books on co-dependency, addiction and recovery in the Self-Help Section. 
    Look for informative writers on the subject: Dr. James Milen, Toby Rice Drews, Claudia Black, Sharon Weg-
7. Read my book "It's Okay To Be Dumbfounded, Just Don't Stay That Way!" found at soon to be an
    e-book on Kindle.

New Year's Eve is not a happy time for many co-dependents and their families. "Party-time" with alcohol is the main part of the celebration and perhaps the excuse for imbibing. Society promotes drinking as part of the process and it is almost impossible to get away from this message. Drinking is everywhere as is the destruction it causes by its misuse. The "day-after" cures are prevalent which lends credence to the message that it's okay to get drunk because the "buzzed" can get relief from the many hang-over remedies that are available to solve this problem and again, it's "okay" to have this problem. It is shared by many but not the "co" because s/he has to deal with the the aftermath behaviors of the alcoholic/addict. 

So if you are a co-dependent who has experienced this situation and want help to get out of it, I know you will find it. Take heart, courage in hand, and move forward to the assistance you need and want. Here's to progress in 2013!

Election Success-The Best Is Yet To Come!

Posted on November 7, 2012 at 5:13 PM Comments comments (2)
Today all of us American citizens can celebrate the success of the national election, especially since the voter turnout was outstanding and powerful against all of the obstructionist antics. Hail to all of the newly elected congress members, especially the women who will help to lead our country forward rather than back to the past whereupon many of the gains women now enjoy were only a dream. The women from the '60s to the present used their strength and courage to fight and win rights for all women to control their own bodies. However, continued vigilance is imperative to retain these rights especially in a few states where new laws have made inroads to overturning this progress. We can observe strong women like Elizabeth Warren from Massachusetts, Tammy Baldwin from Wisconsin and Mazie Hirono from Hawaii as they fought for a Senator's seat so that they could work with their colleagues to create better laws for the people in our country.  With these women as models, any person who is presently mired in the effects of being in a relationship with someone who suffers from alcoholism or drug addiction can be inspired to make a personal decision to seek help for themselves and their children. S/he can start with the yellow pages of the local phonebook and look up Al-Anon and make a call to the help line. A warm and friendly person will take the call and answer questions and give the location and time of the closest Al-Anon support group meeting. For the same information, one can also go to the internet and input Al-Anon on the search line. The sooner the better! The seeker will breathe a sigh of relief when walking into a meeting through an open door to health and the new information which can save that person's life.
"It's Okay to be Dumbfounded, Just Don't Stay That Way"From Co-Addiction to Recovery-Doing whatever it takes to live a healthy life free from addiction, the title of my book, is another important resource and I invite you to explore the contents. You will be empowered to move forward.

Women's Vote Crucial

Posted on October 19, 2012 at 5:34 PM Comments comments (8)
Well, Gals, it's time to join together and cast our vote on November 6th for Women's Rights! We are seeing such an extensive egregious attack on women's rights here in 2012 that is incredible! We have so much at stake. Younger women, who are coming into their own presently, most certainly did not walk in their mom's shoes during the 70's when all of us mothers gained our liberation and recognition that we were indeed, people, human beings, citizens of the United States of America just like men and were entitled to our rights...the right to control our bodies and what decisions we needed to make for ourselves. Even the right to have a credit card in our own names was finally "granted".  We fought for these rights not just for ourselves but for generations of women to come. That is why our participating in this election is so crucial and continuing to support people who support women's gains is the action we need to take.
Can we go back and live restricted lives? Not on your life!
Let's get with it Gals, and move forward not back!

Facing the Facts of Alcoholic Behavior

Posted on September 14, 2012 at 4:51 PM Comments comments (4)
Dear Readers,
I am including a page from my book "It's Okay To Be Dumbfounded, Just  Don't Stay That Way!" which gives specifics of my experience as a co-dependent, learning about the disease of Alcoholism. I think this will encourage you to read my book and get the help you need to move forward through the maze of co-addiction to recovery.

Strong, Active Women Enhance the 2012 Democratic Convention

Posted on September 6, 2012 at 3:13 AM Comments comments (2)
Yes, if you are a woman reading this blog after watching 2 days at the Democratic Convention, you cannot help but be empowered by all of the speakers, especially those women who have stepped up and stood up for women and their rights in our country. Katheen Sebellius-Secretary of Health and Human Services, Tammy Duckworth-injured Iraq combat veteran running for the House in Illinois, Lilly Ledbetter for whom the Lilly Ledbetter Fair Pay Act for women was named, Nancy Keenan-President of the National Abortion Rights Action League Pro-Choice-NARAL, Sandra Fluke-Georgetown Law School graduate and women's rights advocate, Elizabeth Warren-Professor, Harvard, past Special Advisor for the Financial Protection Bureau and now Senate Candidate from Massachusetts,  Cecile Richards-President of Planned Parenthood, and First Lady, Michelle Obama. Men must feel proud for their wives, daughters, granddaughters, mothers, other female family members as well as friends who have benefited from the actions of these women. They have believed in themselves and in the importance of promoting the well-being of their families by their forward-moving behaviors. Every woman benefits from their actions, regardless of political affliliations. 
Many women attending the Convention identify with the speakers because they are standing up for who and what they believe in. Understanding how the disease of alcohol and drug addiction affects families, I suggest that a fair percentage of these attendees are dealing with co-addiction in their personal lives, some have gleaned the information which has helped them recover, and many are still in a quandry about the disease. They either have faced or will face the facts of alcoholism in real life. I am attaching a page from my book "It's Okay To Be Dumbfounded, Just Don't Stay That Way!" which describes some of these facts:
I care about people, especially those who are in a relationship with a person who is addicted to alcohol and/or drugs. In my book, I share my life and the newest information about a potent path to recovery-from my co-dependency and my husband's addiction-which led us to our 28 years of sobriety.
I identify with the women attending and speaking at the Convention because we all care about our families, ourselves, others and our total well-being. We all do what we can with the information we have to improve our lives. We are the winners!   

Maeve Binchy, Author Extraordinaire

Posted on August 1, 2012 at 6:38 PM Comments comments (4)
The untimely death of Maeve Binchy, yesterday, July 31, 2012, at the age of 72 was indeed a shock! "Light A Penny Candle" was her first published book and the first one she authored that I read. Much of the book is centered around alcoholism and the devastation it creates with the family and friends. I felt like she could see into my life as I experienced being a co-alcoholic to my alcoholic husband before we both recovered. She hit the "nail on the head" as she zeroed in on the behaviors of those with the disease of alcoholism. Maeve was an inspiration to me. She was able to communicate in a way that was felt in the hearts of her readers. She knew her subjects, her people and how to reach them with her writing. The information she shared in "The Maeve Binchy Writers' Club" was so helpful to me in my authorship. I will miss knowing that "she is there" to admire and from whom to learn and enjoy. What a wonderful contributor to humanity she was! She will always be remembered, especially by her women followers.

Jerry Sandusky's Crime

Posted on July 3, 2012 at 4:13 PM Comments comments (9)
Yes, to Mike Dawson in his July 1st Sunday Oakland Tribune article Sandusky investigation turns up emails.He is the first reporter I’ve seen who used the word  molest  in relation to Jerry Sandusky’s  sexual abuse of young boys. It seems to me that the word abuse is thrown about too loosely these days, so much so that it can be termed a throw-away description of many conditions i.e. elder, drug, alcohol,child, parental, etc. Just what does abuse entail in these situations? No one knows for sure except that it is BAD whatever the abuse. Since the word is used extensively for so many conditions, it minimizes the condition to readers and then can be passed off as “ah, well, just another negative action” without really knowing the severity of the circumstance. Let’s select the most descriptive word which most exclusively states the situation so that we can determine just exactly what happened to the victim.  Molest, rape, bludgeon, pistol-whip, name-call,reprimand, mug, more accurately portray a picture of a perpetrated action rather than abuse. Let's call a spade a spade!