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Peyton Manning, Helen Mirren and "Bud"

Posted on February 8, 2016 at 6:33 PM Comments comments ()
Peyton Manning, the Denver Broncos hailed quarterback's comments, when winning the Super Bowl 50 game on Sunday, was shocking, to say the least, as he touted drinking a lot of Budweiser to celebrate the victory after he hugged his wife and family. It goes without saying that fellow drinkers/alcoholics raised a glass to toast his statement. Then you have young fans agreeing as they look up to the victor and continue to imbibe. To top it off, actress Helen Mirren strengthened his message, after warning viewers about the dangers of drinking and driving, by lifting a glass of Bud in a toast. What a contradiction! Go figure!  Chip Franklin, daily talk-show host on KGO Radio, San Francisco, pointed out this contradiction this morning. He is able to reach many listeners and it was very important that he focus them to the harmful message that these two celebrities were sending in the TV ads. One would reason that intelligent celebrities, knowing they are in the spotlight, would recognize the strong impression they leave on viewers and would stand for good health and actions that promote it. Where are their consciences? Is it the almighty dollar and loyalty to Budweiser that has a hold on them? Unhappily,and dishearteningly so, that is probably the case. This is certainly an example of the old saying "Money is the root of all evil". Mammon seems to be ruling currently and those who decide to live closer to their true, personal values are finding it more of a challenge these days. That is why it is more important to take what celebrities say cum grano salis with "a grain of salt" and hold fast to what personal experience and research is telling us regarding the negative influence alcohol and drugs have on our lives and choose facts over fiction. 

President Obama's monetary commitment to health-centered solution to addiction crisis

Posted on February 2, 2016 at 9:15 PM Comments comments ()
The "Facing Addiction" organization was founded in 2015 to bring the public's attention to the crisis in the United States of the increasing numbers of people who are becoming addicted to various addictive drugs. i.e,. prescription drugs, alcohol, heroin, cocaine, etc. and whose lives and the lives of their loved ones and friends are negatively influenced by their addiction. "Addiction directly impacts over 45 million families in America, and drug overdoses have now surpassed car accidents as our nation's leading cause of accidental deaths. An astonishing 90% of those in need of treatment do not receive it. Yet for all of the challenges we face regarding proper access to prevention and treatment of addiction- largely without the health system's support- we know recovery is a reality for more than 23 million Americans. The time has come for the health care system in our country to support prevention and recovery and this life-saving proposal will bring us closer toward that idea. Addiction is a national health crisis,not a crime, and it deserves national attention. Preventing, much less ending, the addiction crisis is not simple, but neither is curing cancer, reducing heart disease, or managing diabetes" according to Facing Addiction. People who are affected by the disease of addiction, both the addict and the co-dependent family member or friend, need the care and support of those professionals who are trained to give intelligent assistance. Fellow members of twelve-step programs provide on-going support also. Having health care resources made available to addicts based on a financial commitment from the Congress will allow treatment leading to recovery much more possible. Presently the existing treatment programs's main focus in on the primary client- the drug or alcohol user-with less attention to those who live with the user and whose lives are so negatively affected. This concentration of services must be expanded to cover the co-dependent's needs. The "co" is so often being overlooked for the emphasis and treatment of the addict but both parties have been imperiled by the disease of addiction and both need to be treated and assisted in their pursuit of recovery. And....the "how to's" must be given to both people so that they are not fumbling around trying to figure out what to do to help themselves. Trained counselors' guidance must be made accessible to them on a regular schedule and provided for by both in-patient and out-patient centers. There is "light at the end of the tunnel" and it will be visualized and realized if those seeking recovery can see where they have been, where they are going and how to get there. This is what I hope for and what is critically important to be included in any treatment program. I trust the the plans for growing health care for treatment and recovery backed by funds will follow this strong belief.

What Happened to Books for Co-dependents?

Posted on October 9, 2015 at 5:21 PM Comments comments ()
Perhaps I am missing out on finding the latest information for co-dependents and where they can get help for their addiction. Even looking in the bookstores does not satisfy my perusing for books on this topic. Back in the 80's and early 90's, there was a myriad of books on this topic but since then, most of the attention has been on the alcoholics or drug addicts or a rush to legalize marijuana. I hear adds on the radio for a miraculous new treatment via a simple surgery which will cure the addict of his/her craving for their drug of choice. All a person has to do is take a trip to the nearest treatment office, undertake the procedure, and lo and behold, awake the next morning and the craving has disappeared. No more endless minutes waiting for the next drink. And the family is now in tact and the relationship with the former addict has improved greatly. First of all, I question that any over-night treatment will be effective, especially since the addiction to the drug has taken its toll on the body, mind and spirit of the addict for many years. It will take a minimum of 2 years to change old habits and adopt new, healthier ones and move forward to a healthy reconstruction of one's life. The same is true for the co-dependents in the former addict's life. The enabler will be devoting at least 2 years to deal with and change old behaviors to newer, healthier ways of behaving.  Furthermore, addicts and co-addicts will have to accept that there is a problem and agree to treatment before any progress can begin. The denial that both people have lived by has to be destroyed and replaced by admitting that there is a problem and that help will be accepted. 

My answer to this problem: I think that people just don't want to read about the disease of addiction and the corresponding behaviors of co-addiction. It's just "too hard". It is easier to continue on, existing under the long established unhealthy rules of a relationship rather than seeking help. However, if book publishers would acknowledge the prevalence of co-dependency and the existing need to generate new information about the condition and treatment, recovery could become attainable for those suffering from the effects of this disease. And---they would undoubtedly sell more books. In addition, by accepting books written by co-dependent celebrities for publication, this could lead to an upsurge of interest and assistance for co's and more book sales as well.

Kennedy "Code of Silence" broken

Posted on October 9, 2015 at 5:02 PM Comments comments ()
The secret is out. The "No Talk" rule is broken. Former Congressman J. Patrick Kennedy, son of deceased Senator Edward Kennedy, courageously went public about his dad's and his alcoholism on October 4 on 60 Minutes during an interview about his recently published book. Illness cloaked in shame is the name of the game. Families living with or alongside an alcoholic husband, mother, father, sister, brother, son, daughter, and other relatives understand too well how this rule works and how to apply it. They are dealing with a disease for which they see no immediate cure, are embarrassed by alcoholic behavior, shamed by a loved one ending up in jail for a DUI, and yet are putting on a happy face to friends and neighbors as if everything is okay.Of course, this is living in a state of denial just as the afflicted one continues to do also. Admitting there is a problem is the first step out of this malaise and when a co-dependent reaches the end of her/his rope, and s/he and goes for help they have broken out of the state of denial. Many times when the co-dependent begins to understand the disease of addiction and learns the part s/he plays in keeping the merry-go-round going, s/he can get the support to change her/his behavior. When attending Al-Anon, s/he will learn that one of the teachings that members learn is that they cannot change anyone else's behavior but they can only change their own. They will feel a certain sense of relief and with the support of the group, will no longer feel they are alone in dealing with the disease of addiction. Changing their behavior tips the relationship mobile out of balance and many times, the addicted will notice. When the co no longer reacts to addicted behavior by yelling at the perpetrator, etc. the addicted will lose the scapegoat they are blaming as an excuse for drinking/using. It can shine a light on the disease and could lead to the addicted admitting there is a problem and seeking help. Also, of great importance, seeking guidance from a competent chemical dependency counselor can provide valuable support as long as the counselor relates the whole picture of the disease of addiction and all its parts and can explain, in detail, this to the co. Learning that the progression of the disease and recovery is predictable will add more understanding to the co and strengthen her/his efforts to continue on the road to health. 

Back to the "No-Talk" rule: According to news reports,the family of Patrick Kennedy are outraged at his book and his disclosing his and his father's alcoholism. This is a typical reaction from families whose skeleton in the closet is now revealed. The fact is is that many of the Kennedy's friends and acquaintance were already aware that drinking and using was present. It was not a secret to them. Patrick Kennedy's admission was merely validations that what was long suspected was the truth.
 
I applaud Patrick's public disclosure and continue hoping that it will lead to the acceptance by the public that addiction is a disease for both the user and family members and in-depth treatment of both, especially families, is critical for recovery. 

My Message from "The Girl On The Train"

Posted on February 18, 2015 at 5:47 PM Comments comments ()
If anyone wants to acquaint themselves about spiraling, out-of-control alcoholic behaviors, pick up the book "The Girl On The Train" by Paula Hawkins just released for sale. You will read main character Rachel Watson's personal accounting of her seeming acknowledgement of her alcoholism and her attempts to sober up, her description of her craving for a drink/s, her acts of concealment, the black-outs she experiences which terrorize her when she is unable to remember just "what she did", and the shame she feels after each addiction episode.  By her description all of the behaviors she talks about signal that she is in the final stage of her addiction. She is unable to control her drinking.  You will also learn how her ex-husband Tom shows his co-addictive behavior as he tries to control her and her drinking as does her friend and  landlady, Cathy.  Not being able to make a go of it, Tom involves himself with another woman and eventually he and Rachel get divorced.  This is when Rachel moves into a spare bedroom at her friend Cathy's house. She continues to drink and her behaviors become so serious that Cathy gives her an eviction notice. Then feeling guilty about that, Cathy apologizes and takes it back. She keeps trying to get Rachel to stop drinking and get help which Rachel is unable to do. So the two of them go round and round over the drinking issues and those of us who have been enablers know only too well how frustrating and discouraging continuing to try to "move the boulder" becomes too exhausting to continue. This is when we ask for help and if we are lucky and resourceful, are able to get the support and assistance we need. Al-Anon did that for me. Going to meetings and listening to members share their experience, strength and hope anchored me in the storm and led to me find the personal power to change what I could about myself and my situation. In addition, I took advantage of a fellow Al-Anon member's strong suggestion that I would get additional help from the Chemical Dependency counselor she was seeing in a group session weekly. I was open to assistance from an expert in the field of alcoholism/addiction because I believed that person would have the targeted information on the disease rather than what a family counselor could offer. Therefore, I attended the group meeting with my Al-Anon friend and was very impressed with the new information the counselor presented. After the meeting was over, I returned to my home and read the handouts I had collected. Thinking it over and, even though I felt overwhelmed with the facts of co-addiction and addiction, I made a phone call to the counselor to set up an appointment. That step was the next one on my road to recovery. During the counseling session, I learned more facts of the disease..that the progression of the disease was predictable but so was the recovery. There was a recovery time-line for both co's and alcoholic/addict. The counselor had learned many of these facts from her work with co's and alcoholics. She probably knew more about the ramifications of the disease than those who confine their counseling to just the alcoholic/addict. She had the face-to-face contact with clients who shared their experiences which fit into a time-line that were held within these experiences. By acquiring the knowledge that there was an order to recovery and stages the person goes through to reach recovery gave me the strength and hope to continue with the counseling and attending Al-Anon meetings. 
Getting back to the main character, Rachel, in the aforementioned book, not having finished reading the final pages, I do not know if Rachel did finally go to AA meetings to receive help. But as the spouse of a successfully recovered alcoholic/drug addict who still attends AA meetings after more than 30 years, I know she will receive the support and positive assistance should she choose to do whatever it takes to recover and live a healthy life free from addiction. 
Good Karma to you!
Addie Lee

Success in the 2014 Holiday Season

Posted on January 11, 2015 at 8:27 PM Comments comments ()
Yes, Christmas, 2014 is gone and 2015 is here already.  I am happy to say that the recovery from addiction and co-addiction that my husband and I are experiencing makes that recovery even more dear and important. No more drinking, bad behavior, bitchiness, worry, fear and hopelessness as was our plight over 30 years ago. Instead facing the whirlwind of the holidays, sober and sane and "keeping it simple" has won out over the call of the return to addiction. It took one minute at a time, one hour at a time, one day at a time until one week went by followed by more weeks stretching into years and now we are at 30+. Thanks to the Higher Power in our lives and our efforts to live a life free from addiction, we have succeeded. I am not bragging but just acknowledging that making a positive change took acceptance that there was a problem and doing something about it. We were blessed that the resources we needed were there for us right when it was imperative for us to find them. A twelve-step program and its supportive members, a thoughtful and knowledgeable chemical dependency counselor who provided the new information we found to be critical yet manageable to guide us on the path to recovery and the strength and persistence to "keep on keeping on" toward our goal made the difference between success and failure. I wish all of your readers the same success and welcome any questions that you may have about this process. 

HAPPY NEW YEAR!

Living in Denial: Refusing to get New Information

Posted on October 17, 2014 at 5:13 PM Comments comments ()
I am discovering that those who are affected by addiction, whether as a co-dependent or an alcoholic/drug addict, or personnel who are involved in the treatment field, live in the world of "Denial". The co may prefer not to admit that s/he is/was influened by the behaviors of the alcoholic/drug addict to others with the exception of sharing  their discomfort with a support group. The alcoholic/addict finds it too painful to concede that his/her behavior negativelyaffected their loved ones and prefers not to face that fact. As Chemical Dependency Counselor, Alice Lebron, states "They are victims of the "Dry Drunk" because they do not take the steps to change their behaviors caused by the drinking/using and thus remain in this state rarely making their amends to their famiily and friends for the problems their illness has caused. The treatment centers refuse to look at any new information about the disease and the recovery process but cling to 40 years of "tried and true" facts re the illness of alcoholism/addiction. I am also finding that recovery bookstores that contain volumes of old, well-known books published in the 70's and 80's are not receptive to adding titles that contain new information, donning the attitude "Everyone has their story" basically saying that keeping an open mind to new facts is of no interest because everything about the field has already been discovered and published. So how do new, legitimate facts become known to those affected when the person in charge assumes this "closed mind" attitude, failing to make them available? This is the quandary that I am faced with as I share or try to share the facts about co-dependency, alcoholism/drug addiction and recovery that can add value and hope for those struggling in their quest for a  healthy life without addiction. It is indeed troubling that the "helping field" and those connected with it prefer to turn a blind eye to receiving updated news which would assist the co-addicted and addicted person.  How does this position live up to the purposes of a twelve-step program's motto "We are Responsible. When anyone, anywhere reaches out for help, we want to be there and for that: We are Responsible"? If anyone has the answer to that question, I welcome your insight and enlightenment. 

Good Karma, Everyone!

Glossary of Terms for Co-Addiction Free

Posted on August 13, 2014 at 6:47 PM Comments comments ()
A Co's Blog provides viewers with definitions of co-addiction, addiction, and recovery. Other descriptive terms are defined also.                                                                            Be in the "know"
                         
           As a recovered co, I believe It is imperative that you understand the terms that I use to inform you about co-addiction, addiction and recovery. These are terms that I learned as I participated in counseling from a chemical dependency counselor (Ms. Alice Lebron, LCSW), attended co-dependency support group meetings and  researched for myself by reading books from the lean book offerings in the field of co-addiction that were published.They are defined below in the Glossary. Acquainting yourself with these terms makes it easier to know just what I am talking about. You may be familiar with many of them and others will be new to you. Since there is minimal information about co-addiction, it is critical that this knowledge becomes part of your usable vocabulary.
 
                                                                          Glossary of Terms
 
Alcoholic/addict:  A person or persons whose continued excessive use of alcoholic drinks leads to an inability to control usage and whose life spirals out of control physically, mentally and spiritually because of this compulsive, chemical dependence.
 
Co-alcoholic/addict: A person or person or persons whose addiction is the alcoholic/addict, who reacts to the accompanying behaviors in unhealthy ways, which are neither helpful to her/himself or the afflicted.
                                                                                    
Enabler: Another term describing the co-alcoholic/addict whose role is to protect one's own and the family's respect. S/he is motivated by the realistic fear that s/he and the family will have to share the negative consequences of the addict's behavior. The enabler feels intense shame with no way out except to try to control the situation however s/he can.
 
Disease model: "Alcoholism is a threefold disease affecting the body, mind and spirit." The addict is genuinely ill, suffering from a diagnosible, progressive, ultimately fatal disease. There is no permanent cure for it - relapse is always as close as the next drink - but it can be arrested and with proper help, the alcoholic can regain health and sobriety. When recognized as a disease, it can be arrested short of total tragedy - provided its victim gets suitable help soon enough.
 
Antabuse (Disulfiram):  A tablet taken with liquid that is used as a treatment for alcoholism. It will not cure alcoholism but is a powerful deterrent to drinking. In combination with alcohol, it produces a metabolic change that causes severe temporary toxicity - vomiting.
 
"Alky": Alky is a slang name for the alcoholic and is generally used to refer to the sick person in communication. The alcoholic refers to him/herself by this word as well.
 
Grass: A slang name for marijuana.
 
Mary Jane: Another slang name for marijuana.
 
Denial: Major overall power of influence that prevents the co-addict or addict from admitting the truth of the reality of alcoholism in their lives. "The addict builds a solid denial system concerning the usage, the related problems and the behaviors. The denial is comprised of rationalization, justification, suppression, repression, and projection and supported by the 'no-talk-rule'."
 
No-Talk Rule: The addict establishes a "No-Talk Rule" very early in the development of the addiction. The addict does not want others talking about the drinking/usage or any problems related to the drinking/usage. The addict uses anger and self-pity to enforce this rule. This rule is also very powerful in covering up the addiction and supporting the delusion of the drinking/using not being a problem. Breaking this rule is very important in intervening, whether it is formal or informal intervention.
 
Formal Intervention: Characterized by creating an opportunity in which a social worker or chemical dependency counselor along with the family members, friends,co-workers, etc. privately confront the alcoholic/addict with their concerns about the addictive behaviors using lists and/or descriptions of offending behaviors and how it has hurt them. The goal of this confrontation is to get the alcoholic/addict to see that the behaviors are directly caused or related to the offending behaviors and that she/he needs professional help. This help can come in the form of in-patient treatment for a specific number of required days or out-patient treatment by going to AA or NA meetings and a chemical dependency counselor for counseling.
 
Informal Intervention: Different from the formal intervention whereby the co or other concerned family member or co-worker describes the addict's behavior in a certain situation and then saying these 3 things:
 
                1. I want you to stop drinking or using drugs.
                2. I want you to go to AA or NA meetings.
                3. I want you to go to a chemical dependency counselor.
 
The confronting person will preface the description by saying "I love you" or "I like you", or "I care about you": This may have to be done numerous times before the addict is ready to acknowledge that help is necessary. Guidance from a chemical dependency counselor can aid the confronter  in determining the specific times to do this and provide support.
 
Twelve-step Program: Alcoholics Anonymous has allowed numerous twelve-step programs to adopt its steps and traditions.
 
The Alcoholics Anonymous Twelve Step Program The Alcoholics Anonymous Twelve Step Program was created by the co-founders Bill Wilson and Dr. Bob Smith, with twelve suggested steps to recovery from alcoholism, which, if followed in order, can lead the alcoholic to recovery from the disease of alcoholism. "In a broad sense, the Steps are spiritual beliefs reflecting elements of many religions and philosophies of the world. In their simple words, the Twelve Steps encompass a magnificent body of ideas whose study will be rewarded by the enrichment of our characters and personalities, a deeper understanding of the relationship to others, and a sustaining confidence and serenity that will help us live more fully each day." (From ALCOHOLISM THE FAMILY DISEASE)
 
Al-Anon Program: The Al-Anon program is a spiritual way of life based on the suggested Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous. Relatives and friends of alcoholics/addicts, who have been deeply affected by close contact with the alcoholic/addict, attend Al-Anon program meetings from which other members offer their friendship, strength and hope. They share their experiences in coping with the disease of alcoholism and how the program helps in giving understanding and encouragement to the alcoholic. Study of this program and its Twelve Steps will strengthen members for the solving of many difficult problems.
 
Serenity Prayer: A prayer that is read at most group meetings of A.A. and Al-anon and often analyzed in group discussions. It also serves as inspiration to individuals in daily meditation:
 
                       "God, grant me the serenity,
                        To accept the things I cannot change,
                        Courage to change the things I can,
                        And wisdom to know the difference."
 
Dry-Drunk Syndrome: "Dry-drunk: is a term describing the state of the alcoholic who is uncomfortable when he is not drinking and/or using. The dry-drunk syndrome is a group of symptoms that occur together and constitute an abnormality. Since the abnormality of the alcoholic's attitude and behavior during his drinking career is generally recognized, the persistence of the character traits after the alcoholic stops drinking might seem equally abnormal.  Therefore, the term "dry-drunk" alludes to the absence of favorable change in the attitudes and behavior of the alcoholic who is not drinking.  From this lack of change it is inferred that the alcoholic (man or woman) is experiencing discomfort in his life. The syndrome can occur in all alcoholics and there is little doubt as to the source of the discomfort. The phase "dry-drunk" has two significant words for the alcoholic:
 
      *  "Dry" simply refers to the fact that he abstains from drinking, whereas
      *  "Drunk" signifies a deeply pathological condition resulting from this use of alcohol in the past.
 
Taken together these words suggest intoxication without alcohol. Since intoxication comes from the Greek word for "poison", dry-drunk implies a state of mind and a mode of behavior that are poisonous to the alcoholic's well-being. This is the reason the addict needs counseling. The counselor educates the addict about the syndrome and therefore, helps to relieve some of the "craziness" the addict feels and brings an understanding of where this behavior fits in the recovery process. This information assists the co in the same way because the co or family members do not understand why the addicted is behaving the same way as when he was drinking/using. The expectation is that once the addict stops drinking and or using, normal behavior will fit into place immediately. This, of course, is not true.
 
AA or Al-Anon Sponsor: An established member of one of these groups who acts as an adviser, friend and teacher to a newcomer, supporting him/her in understanding the program and assisting the newcomer with working the Twelve Steps by sharing their experience, strength and hope when he/she recovered. The sponsor/friend usually accompanies his "student" to the formal meetings, makes home visits and/or arranges regular contact for support and shepherds the recovering person on their road to an addiction-free life.
 
AA and Al-Anon Service: The AA or Al-Anon members dedicate a portion of their time to assisting troubled persons who are seeking help to deal with their addiction or co-addiction. This may include visits to the person's home, hospital or institution or recovery center. Active members consider this service as another tool the recovered person uses to remain clean and sober as well as giving a validation of their changed, healthier lives. AA or Al-Anon service also includes the member taking an active role in local or area meetings as an officer in the organization. Assuming the role of a speaker at AA conferences is another way to spread the word of recovery from addiction or co-addiction to both longtime members as well as newcomers.
 
 

The Loss of Robin Williams

Posted on August 12, 2014 at 12:04 AM Comments comments ()
We are all reeling from the news of Robin Williams death. It is indeed a tragedy! He touched so many people's lives with his wit and acting ability and the God-given talent he possessed which let him tap into the feelings and experiences of others so easily and entertain us all with his gift. Today, one wonders if, in his depression, he was able to reach into his own heart and those of his family to understand how his loss would affect them. From what I know of deep depression, this psychological affliction does not allow the sufferer this insight. That person sees only himself and his loneliness and pain as unendurable and is without hope to continue on in his/her life. Robin's illness, addiction, compounded his discomfort and  led to an even deeper spiral to the abbess of death. From his own words, after John Belushi died of an overdose years ago, Robin expressed how his being with John when he died showed him how he needed to clean up his own act by going into treatment for his addiction. New reports state that he had to readmit himself for treatment more than once and as late as 2006 and he may have had to do this again currently. That is the terrible curse of the disease of addiction. If the addict seeks recovery and is honest with him/herself and does whatever it takes to live a life free from addiction, it is unusual for the disease to show its ugly head again. But for many, belonging to a support group and/or receiving counseling is not enough. The addict only remembers how good it felt to be free of his negative feelings by taking that first drink or the first hit of a drug. That is why members of AA refer to this disease as "cunning, baffling and powerful" because that is exactly what it is. If in treatment, the addict does not receive the information on what he./she will be experiencing as they face life without a chemical, he/she will most likely succumb to the craving for blessed relief. But, in fact, if the addict does learn what to expect in the next 2 years of treatment and is given the tools to cope with the withdrawal, success is more likely.  As he/she withdraws from the chemical, and learns that he/she will not be feeling very good when this takes place, with the support of the group and guidance from a competent counselor, the temptation will ease in time and the recovering addict will begin using the tools given him/her with which to cope. I don't know what stage of addiction Robin Williams was experiencing but understanding the terrible power addiction has over its victims, it seems that he had been drawn back into the powerful web and downward spiral of desperation from which he knew no other escape but to take his own life.  I am thankful that he did make so many people happy with his talent and trust that we will always remember the positive aspects of his life. 

Rob Ford's Admission

Posted on July 2, 2014 at 5:19 PM Comments comments ()
It was good news to see Toronto Mayor Rob Ford's public admission that he had been in denial of his addiction in the past and in his present state is admitting that he is an alcoholic/drug addict in the recovery process. By his words, he seems to have had an awakening to his disease and is beginning down the path to recovery. What is most outstanding is that he talked about how his drinking/drugging had negatively impacted his family. He mentioned them first rather than talking about how he himself was affected. This is a very good sign. Many times, persons who admit their problem with addiction save the effect on the family to last sentence or maybe do not mention them at all but instead fixate on how it affected them. To his credit, he also thanked the staff at the recovery center he attended for their guidance and counseling in his treatment. 

Regarding the disease of alcoholism/addiction and most notable, Mayor Ford talked about the 
overwhelming craving he felt for his alcohol/drugs to continue to feel normal. According to Alice 
Lebron, chemical dependency counselor, the craving is the addiction. In her recently published book
"A Handbook For The Treatment Of Alcoholism", Ms. Lebron states: "The behaviors of alcoholism/addiction develop from the disease and are developed to protect the drinking/usage. The goal of the alcoholic/addict is to continue the usage; great discomfort develops if drinking/using is interfered with for any reason. The power in the disease comes from the craving. The craving is where the person is powerless over alcohol/drugs, or behaviors; the person is not powerless in deciding whether or not to drink/use. This needs to be clarified for the alcoholic/addicted client, co-dependent family members and others concerned. This enables the alcoholic/addict to begin to take charge of their recovery and assume personal responsibility for their decisions." 

As time rolls on, we will all see how Mayor Ford matches his words with his actions. I wish him the 
best success as he takes each step to recovery from the illness of alcoholism/drug addiction. 

I wish the best to his family whom I trust are receiving thorough counseling to guide and support them
in their recovery.

Good Karma to Rob Ford and his family!

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